EHAS understands life is full of adversities. You might ask yourself, what makes some people get up in the morning determined to have a great day, while others settle for whatever?
EHAS believe it has to do with resilience, which is usually defined as the capacity to handle adversities constructively, recover from them, and integrate them in a way that allows the youths to find growth and meaning as they move forward in life.
So, while it’s natural for our youths to experience mixed feelings daily, including disappointments, grief, and anger, the more resilient ones can recover more quickly from those experiences. They often learn and grow from those setbacks, gaining confidence and resourcefulness. EHAS’s goal is to help make a tremendous difference in the youth’s ability to adjust to the normal disappointments of life and to gain more flexibility and resilience when things aren’t going their way.
*Research on resilience has found that:
Genetics influences resilience – The most significant factor in a youth’s development of resilience is the parent-child relationship, which can help these youths develop a lifelong sense of safety and a nervous system that recovers from stress more quickly. For argument’s sake, everyone is born with a different innate tendency toward more or less resilience, anyone can learn the skills to become more resilient.
There’s a common misconception that our youths develop resilience by failing. In all actuality, our youths develop resilience by dealing successfully with failure. When young minds have the support to get up and try again, they learn they can survive adversity and come out okay. When a youth doesn’t have that support, all he or she learns from failing is that he or she’s the kind of person who fails.
*So, what kind of support can EHAS help your youth turn failure into the confidence that no matter what happens, he or she can handle it?
The experience of feeling safe – The security of them knowing that someone is watching out for them is what allows youth to explore, to risk bumps, disappointment, and hurt feelings, and to come out the other side. When a young mind feels safe, they develop a nervous system that is less alarmist, so they recover more easily from upsets. EHAS don’t try to talk them out of their feelings when they don’t get the part in a school project.
EHAS, empathize with their disappointment and honor their grief. With mature mindset support, the youths will feel the emotions and move past them, instead of freezing them inside, which locks in that feeling of failure. Youths learn from their experience that they can tolerate any emotion, they feel and come out on the other side feeling confident.
The experience of solving problems – EHAS will help the youths manage their anxiety so they don’t make a habit of rescuing their inner child. Instead, when they get into a situation, we support them in brainstorming possible solutions. EHAS have created a program (STC Program) to help solve the problem for the youths, our teaching will help them understand they can’t solve certain situations themselves.
EHAS’s goal isn’t just to solve these problems with the youths but to support them to feel more capable by giving backup so that they can successfully handle the challenges. In the future, they’ll have more confidence when they hit a roadblock because they think of themself as someone who can solve the problems, they have encountered.
The experience of encountering emotions – Resilience depends on being able to handle negative emotions. It’s natural that when young minds feel overwhelmed by their emotions, they crumble. But as the youths get older, they will develop enough emotional regulation to tolerate the disappointment of losing or the frustration of practicing as they master their craft. They recover more quickly from upsets. They’re more likely to re-apply themselves, and to keep trying when things are hard. How can EHAS help your child develop emotional regulation? You may ask. EHAS Stories to Create Program is all about growth. A very important parenting strategy is to accept and allow all emotions, even when a guardian feels the need to limit behavior.
We at EHAS ask that you make sure that your child gets plenty of time to initiate and pursue his or her passions, which isn’t always easy in this era, where technology takes precedents. When youth knows that someone cares, and is there to help them pick up the pieces, which is the base of resilience. EHAS can’t promise to protect your child from the challenges that life has to offer, but what we can do is make sure that they know how to find their inner strength, and has the confidence to make it through those challenges. EHAS want to teach them that, they don’t need to be discouraged, as their adversity will teach them about themselves.
*Everyone has a story – (STC) Stories to Create Program
EHAS program workshops help youths understand how their mindset contributes to their successes and failures. The workshops will help fixed mindset, where the youths believe that their basic qualities are inherent. This workshop helps develops a growth mindset, and helps the youths believe their qualities and abilities can be developed over time through hard work and dedication. Practice, they will understand, is the key to mastery. This program will help the youths also look for opportunities to challenge them to learn and improve, and they will utilize feedback as a tool for growth. The results of this program will help the youths, and adults alike embrace a mindset for better relationships and are more motivated, productive, and resilient.
The EHAS STC Program consists of four workshops:
-Using adversity to find purpose